Financial Therapy

Dear Money Adventurer,

When I completed my training as a Somatic Therapist at Naropa University (I received a Masters in Somatic Psychology in 1998), I knew that I wanted to work with people to bring healing and authentic, body-based awareness to their lives. Little did I know that my own discarded bank statements and a fateful student loan bill would lead me down the path that would shape my career – and my life.

Most of us never learn how to manage money, never mind how to talk about it or the emotions that come up around this scary, taboo subject.

Emotions like…

The anxiety that rises in your chest when the subject of household expenses comes up with your sweetie, again.

The thrill of finally paying off a big chunk of debt – only to realize that you still haven’t uncovered the unconscious money patterns that caused you to get into debt in the first place.

The clench of fear in your gut when you think about how to deal with an unexpected money curveball that life just threw at you.

You aren’t alone.

You CAN create an authentic, mindful relationship with money in your life. It just takes a bit of work, some self inquiry, and a dash of guidance.

I’ve been a financial therapist for 23 years now (+ a decade before this working in the mental health + hospice field while getting my Masters degree in Somatic Psychology), and this intersection of emotional literacy and financial literacy is the foundation of my financial therapy work.

These money waters run deeper than daily transactions and bank account balances – from careers to romance, parenting to creativity, spirituality, health, self-worth, and the way that we show up in the world – money touches every part of our lives.

My superpower is helping people un-shame their money story. When we remove our shame about where we’re at with money, a deeper understanding comes into your financial life, and along with it, a growing feeling of enoughness.

I think what Bari does more than anything is un-shames us around money. It’s the combination of nuts and bolts financial knowledge and practices, with compassionate attention — not only on the numbers, but past baggage, emotions, and heart. . . . . It was the combination of rigor — and frankly love — that made this work land with me like nothing before.

Kristen Wheeler

Private financial therapy is the fastest, most effective way to shift your money relationship – and that’s why I’m opening my calendar for a small group of people to get up to three 75-minute, one-on-one sessions. (I usually open up my calendar like this only once or twice a year, and when I do, the sessions tend to get scooped up within 24 hours.)

These Private Therapy Sessions are great for you if:

  • You want a safe, brave space to get advice, somatic tools, and practices tailor made for you and your specific situation.
  • A particular area of your money relationship is crying out for attention, and you want deep support as you navigate your way to healing.
  • You’re a current or past student of my Art of Money program, or you’ve read my book The Art of Money. You’re already immersed in this work and want the extra boost of my undivided attention to support you on the path.
  • This money journey feels deeply exciting to you – but you’re a little lost about where to start. You want to experience it first-hand, one-on-one.

Wherever you are in your money journey, all of you is welcome here.

My private session with Bari was inspiring, empowering and energizing. I felt seen and celebrated for how far I’ve come so far in my relationship with money. With her support I was able to let go of shame and receive the surprising gifts from a specific family situation. I gained clarity on next steps to take to move towards my next big money targets. And I’m excited to take those steps! I’m so grateful for Bari’s unique perspectives, compassionate spirit and deep wisdom. I’m also grateful I signed up for this session with her! I was amazed by how deep and far we went. I look forward to more!
Megan Walrod

My financial therapy sessions are nourishing time together that brings clarity, perspective, and direction to your money life.

Here’s how they work:

We’ll connect over Zoom for a 75-minute session. Before we get together, you can send me any details you want me to know about you and your situation so we can jump right in on the call. After our session, you’ll receive personalized email support, encouragement, and resources to support you as you grow.

Up to three 75-minute sessions + follow up email support

Together, we can move mountains. In our sessions, here are some examples of what we can work on:

  • Bring more awareness and understanding to your family money dynamics
  • Uncover your hidden money stories and re-write them if they no longer serve you.
  • Understand how to work with the money shame, anger, and stress that comes up during daily money moments.
  • Learn somatic tools to help you calm your nervous system.
  • Create customized money rituals and savvy money date practices.
  • Establish the financial support team you need right now (bookkeepers, accountants, financial planners, etc.)
  • Get mentor coaching around business models, pricing, sustainability, and owning your value.
  • Learn how to have more compassionate money conversations with the people closest to you.
  • Align your spending and savings with your big life goals, deepest values, and dreams.
  • Learn how to make savvy money decisions.

One-Time Session

Includes intake + one 75-minute session + follow up email support

Three Sessions Package Investment:

Includes intake + three 75-minute sessions + follow up email support

It's been amazing for me to work with Bari over the last decade. Personally, being able to do this work in the Art of Money community helped transform the crippling anxiety, shame and fear that I sometimes felt when making money decisions. I've gone from chronically underearning to confidently earning a solid living with ease. My debt has come down, my credit has improved. The biggest gift has been feeling less anxious about money--even with big changes afoot like having a child and getting divorced. Overall, I feel way more grounded and confident about my ability to take care of myself and my family financially. And, I have a solid money practice that I lean on to this day. From the perspective of a therapist and a coach, The Art of Money method has deeply informed the way I hold my own clients when it comes to money. Bari’s modeling has also deeply informed how I have set up my own business, how I do marketing and how I think about my fees. Additionally, Bari’s work is fundamentally trauma-informed money work and she has been doing “trauma-informed” way before it became popular. Back when I started with her, nobody was really saying that and yet that's exactly what Bari was doing, honoring the pace of the body going really slow and having a non-shaming approach. I really do not have enough words to tell you how grateful I am for you and this powerful, gentle, depthful approach to money work. I’m ecstatic that she's now offering this mentorship program for other folks who want to learn financial therapy. I just can't imagine a better teacher.
Sonya Brewer

I hold the belief that in order to do my best work to support my clients, I also need to be doing my own money work. For this very reason, a number of years ago, I joined the Art of Money program - and more recently have done some 1:1 financial therapy work with Bari. The Art of Money framework and approach provide something to each of us - no matter where we are at in our own journey with money. Bari has given me language and understanding to help me better navigate my own relationship with money. I also bring what I’ve learned and insights I’ve gained into how I work with my own clients.
Carrie B. Van Winkle

Private financial therapy with me brings the very best of my Art of Money method directly to the areas of your money relationship that need the most love by integrating three different phases. Our work together in one session can end up focusing on just one of these core areas or a mixture of all three:

Money Healing: Together, we’ll bring compassionate curiosity to shine a light on your emotions, patterns, beliefs, and unique money story. We’ll un-shame your relationship with money using heaps of honesty, forgiveness, and love.

Money Practices: Here, we learn a new way to interact with money as a nurturing self-care practice. We empower ourselves by learning money dates, tracking money as it flows in and out, and reviewing our numbers. This phase is where we align our money lives with our deepest values, bringing mindfulness to our earning, spending, saving, gifting, and debt.

Money Maps: Zoom out to the larger view of our lives and how money supports our goal setting, dreams, and what phase of life we’re in. Here, we learn how to make good money decisions and identify how money can best support our unfolding lives.

Questions, Concerns, and What You Need to Know

I say this with love – this work is not for everyone. It’s for truly motivated people who are ready and willing to show up, trust the process, and commit to a loving exploration of their relationship with money.

While it’s true that I only offer a handful of spots at a time for this deeply intimate work, the whole scarcity-driven, buy-now-or-you’ll-miss-out schtick isn’t my thing. I am here for conscious, informed money decisions that feel aligned, not rushed or pressured.

These Private Financial Therapy sessions are a financial investment in personalized support, but if they aren’t financially accessible or right for you right now, that doesn’t mean that our work together needs to end here.

Please know that wherever you are financially in this moment, I would love to support you in your money journey.

This is why I have offerings at different price points.

You may want to consider my year-long program, The Art of Money, which is an online group program and includes great content plus weekly and monthly community support (it has a rolling enrollment so you can join now). Or you can gift yourself with my books, The Art of Money: A Life-Changing Guide to Financial Happiness and The Art of Money Workbook.

Because when we speak the truth about money, we empower healing and transformation, and I believe that truth should be shared as widely as possible.

So, is Private Financial Therapy right for you, right now?

We’re all on our own personal journey of growth and discovery – you’re the authority here!

Ask yourself – am I ready for this and the positive changes it could bring?

If the answer is emphatically, wholeheartedly, “YES,” – then I can’t wait to get started!

One-Time Session Investment:

Includes intake + one 75-minute session + follow up email support

Three Sessions Package Investment:

Includes intake + three 75-minute sessions + follow up email support

Important Policies:

These private financial therapy sessions are non-refundable. We do offer the option of rescheduling one time, but after that you will lose your slot. These sessions are good for up to one year. Also, if you don’t show up for a session, you will lose your nonrefundable slot.

SavePlease note: This is not psychotherapy and Bari will not be diagnosing or working within a traditional psychotherapy framework. Bari offers a one-time session or a 3-session package support. If you need on-going support, Bari recommends working with licensed therapists and financial professionals who offer more long-term support. Additionally, joining the year-long, Art of Money program is great ongoing support in a group setting with an online community.

Here’s to making sound money decisions and changing the very nature of how you relate with money.

Bari has guided us through a clear and intentional process that moved us from a long held place of fear, neglect and avoidance of our financial landscape, to a place of deep commitment, empowerment and alignment. Her heartFULL support, masterful guidance, solid tools and gentle accountability have helped us to cultivate a thriving financial partnership! One Love...

Maketa and Jessie Rey

When I established my business 3 years ago, I didn’t actually realise I was founding a business. As a research scientist of 25 years, I thought of my move more like ‘continuing to give my talks’ about how relationships shape infant brain development.

Two years on, I was in overwhelm – drowning in figuring out how to organize the money, how to look at my bank balance without feeling sick with anxiety, how to feel like the company director I now understood I was. In our very first session, Bari helped me to identify my key problem: I thought I was supposed to already know how to do all this new ‘money stuff’!

I was riddled with embarrassment that I (the high achieving confident girl) didn’t understand how to even think about these new systems, and I had no idea where to go to begin to solve that problem. The biggest gift that Bari Tessler gave me was permission Not To Know. Once I came to understand it was acceptable that I Did Not Know, I was transformed.

Excited curiosity replaced tearful dread. My business became for me the bold adventure I had hoped for. How did Bari do that? What was the key thing she did for me? She offered me gentleness. I love that Bari Tessler lives out the science I am trying to disseminate to the wider world: Compassionate listening is the key to growth for all of us, from babies on up.

Dr. Suzanne Zeedyk
Kristen Wheeler

I think what Bari does more than anything is un-shames us around money. It’s the combination of nuts and bolts financial knowledge and practices, with compassionate attention — not only on the numbers, but past baggage, emotions, and heart. It was the combination of rigor — and frankly love — that made this work land with me like nothing before.

Kristin Wheeler

I loved our session Bari! Just booking our time together created an opportunity for Ash and I to take our conversations about money to a deeper place. I have resisted putting any energy into understanding and creating space for money for so long, but the energy it creates and the opportunities it creates for intimacy in our marriage blows my mind! I am so grateful for the work you do and how beautifully you and Forest show the way.

Sas Petherick

I said in our first meeting, "I want you to give me a transmission - The Knowing - about money." But little did I know that what I was going to receive from you was much more.

Yes, my relationship with money improved, I feel more comfortable making decisions and speaking to others about it. I've learned to set clear boundaries and within that I've learned to relax more and be more generous.

But the true transformation and transmission I received was the permission, example and inspiration to BE A WOMAN IN A MAN DRIVEN WORLD. To make this seemingly contrived money world into a creative exploration. I learned that I can have MY WAYS... creative, playful, meaningful and full of beauty while also being responsible, effective and successful.

That I did not have to "lose" myself to be successful or effective in the world. I thought I would learn bookkeeping techniques, checks and balances, or set up how to delegate these responsibilities - which are part of the program and important! - But what I came away with was ACCEPTANCE, GRATITUDE AND APPRECIATION for who I am and my own unique dialogue and relationship with money.

I learned to trust my INTUITION even when my "mind" says "I should! I should! I should!"... To trust that I am ok just where I am... that I'm not confused, broken or a mess... I AM A WOMAN! for god's sake... passionate, unpredictable, playful and deeply connected to my experience, which is ALWAYS CHANGING! I am not perfect and that's ok. I am good enough.

Bari, I believe that working with you was my initiation into the MODERN FEMININE - seeing through the "story" of the world, whole-fully participating and in the wake create an enlivening experience for all involved! I feel sisterhood, allegiance and community when I think of you... and so it is.

Maria Bailey

Bari is a wise, loving and incredibly real. Working with her has been a grounding point not only in my relationship to money but also in my life. She naturally creates a safe haven and gently holds the space for you to navigate the wilderness of money and all dances with it.

She wears many hats… a guide, a teacher, mentor, friend, role model and she moves through these hats with the perfect amount of transparency, professionalism and grace. Her worked moved me from a place of fear, shame and isolation around money to a place of having much more confidence, clarity, ease and enjoyment! I never knew that looking at my numbers could actually be exciting.

If you know the time has come for you enter “money adulthood” then Bari is your gal. Her work leads your through a process that is both deep and transformational but also fun, educational and action oriented. Working with her was one of the best decisions I made all year.

Rebecca Lewis

Beautiful Bari, thank you for our last session today in the six month financial coaching program that I did with you. It continually amazes me how well you navigate the practical, emotional, physical, mental, and other aspects of the work.

In one moment, you hang with me through the juicy visions of my shamanic mind revealing next steps and clear visions in epic symbolism, dreams, and images and then next you're walking me through the practical and technical subtleties of refining my growing-ever-more-efficient bookkeeping system - now that's adaptability!

I am so looking forward to diving in to greater depth and subtlety and abundance as I embark on your community course and movement, the Art of Money starting this Friday! Heck, I was adding in my head how much I estimate I saved in practical expenses + time saved + abundant income that all directly resulted from your program and I definitely saved and generated more than I spent on it. I estimated our session today probably saved me at least $500 in expenses. (p.s. that's my enginerd mind that thinks that way being very happy with my investment. LOL!)

Angela Grace

I've upgraded my mantras and sing a new financial song. Now I can do quickbooks on a mac, I know the difference between financial planner and financial coach, and I can hire a bookkeeper when the time comes with confidence.

And I stepped up because I no longer stumble in my money shoes. Thank you Bari. My healing around that which scares (terrifies) me has blown right off the charts. And she speaks in these low soothing tones that could talk a (financial) jumper off a ledge, uh, like me.

My life will never be the same, and yours won't be either if you are brave and love yourself enough to change that which does not serve, even if its its mad scary. Bari will help you. Trust me.

Rowan Twosisters

My husband and I decided to work with Bari because we were stuck in the same, old (ugly) patterns around money. We knew we needed to change, yet the “money talks,” the budgeting, the planning...was keeping us on a merry-go-round of struggle, anger and frustration.

I knew it was our “psychology” and our emotions around money that really needed to shift, while my husband was more focused on the nuts-and-bolts of our finances; and Bari was a perfect fit for both of our needs.

In her kind, soothing and ever-so-compassionate way, she gently helped us see the old patterns and begin to shift them. She reminded us that although we each “held” different stances around money in the relationship, we actually had similar values and wishes for our family. Bari also gave us the courage to “look” at our money in a more nuts-and-bolts, concrete way.

We set up a Mint account, have “money dates” weekly, and budget and plan in a way that doesn’t feel “restrictive” and depriving, but exciting and hopeful. Our conversations hold connection instead of disconnection and anger; and our money relationship is no longer a source of conflict for us. It is a HUGE relief.

In addition – and this feels almost magical – my income has increased. If you struggle with money (and who doesn’t?) and you want a loving, soothing guide to support you with wisdom, intuition and deep psychological awareness, than you will be in great hands with Bari.

Karen Schachter