Dear Money, Let’s start again.

written by Bari Tessler July 14, 2021
A love letter to money

Dear Money Adventurer,

So often, we think of money as a means to an end. As the standard system of exchange in our world, it is a necessary resource in our lives. But money is so much more than that.

Whether you were aware of it or not, your money story is a narrative that has slowly evolved over the course of your life, weaving together unconscious beliefs about value, worth, relationships, community, how the world works, and where you fit into it.

This is why we’re here, learning to write a new chapter, reclaiming the narrative, and empowering ourselves with the tools we need to become the authors of our own money story. When it comes to building an authentic and intentional relationship with money in your life, you get to decide what that means to you and what you want it to look like.

So, today, I want to ask you a question…

How would your perspective change if you connected with money as a beloved old friend?

What would shift if, instead of talking ABOUT money, you talked TO money like a close confidant that you lost touch with over time? As if your relationship got sidetracked when life happened – as it so often does?

What if money was on your side all along? How would you show up to rekindle this precious relationship?

When I ask myself this question, I imagine writing a letter to my dear friend, sending something tangible from my heart across the distance to say I love you, I miss you, let’s reconnect….

Dear Money,

I have to say, I’m a little nervous writing this. Isn’t that funny? You’ve been on my mind so often, but especially lately. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day-to-day. I’m sorry that so much time and distance have slipped between us. I feel like I blinked and life happened.

You’ve always been such an important part of my life – I never meant to take you for granted.

I got stuck in what wasn’t working, what I didn’t have, and what I had to do – I was so preoccupied, but you were still there, on my side. Even when I couldn’t see it, you were rooting for me through it all.

Can we start again?

I know we’ve had our moments, beautiful and challenging alike. I forgive you for not showing up the way I wanted you to, the way I needed you to. And I’m sorry that I didn’t see the ways you did show up, that I couldn’t find the words to ask for what I needed, or to tell you how I felt… and I forgive myself, too.

I’d love to get to know each other now, to let go of our old misunderstandings and reconnect. We’ve shared so much, learned so much together, and I know that we can write a new chapter if we try. We’re in this together, and I want to show up with you, to be intentionally present, candidly honest – and maybe have a little fun?!

I’m here now. Thank you for waiting for me.



If you wrote a love letter to money – what would it say? Take a moment and look inward. Notice what’s coming up for you, what you’re feeling in your body right now, where your thoughts are drifting.

What are you ready to forgive?

What are you ready to release?

What do you want to honor?

Be gentle with yourself here. This simple practice runs deceptively deep.

Whether you’re just beginning your personal money journey or have been forging this path for a while now, this is an invitation to engage with money on an intimate level, to craft an authentic relationship that is yours and yours alone.

Consider this a loving reminder that whatever you’re feeling, whatever you need to say, is perfectly right and good because it is true to you.

Deep breath.

So, if you wrote a love letter to money – what would it say?

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