It’s okay to not be everyone’s cup of tea.

written by Bari Tessler November 4, 2019
It's okay to not be everyone's cup of tea.

It’s okay to not be everyone’s cup of tea in business and life.

Some days I’m told I have a great voice, very soothing and perfect for my work. Other days I’m told I sound like a child and have an annoying voice.

Some days I’m told I’m motherly, dramatic and too compassionate as if that’s a bad thing. Other days I’m told I’m motherly, compassionate with a lean towards the dramatic as though that’s the best thing and they love this about me.

Some days I’m told people love my stories and storytelling and that my personal sharing and honesty helps them see themselves better. Other days, I’m told my stories are so narcissistic and that I should focus on the customer more and what’s in it for them.

This is all part of putting yourself out there. People will love you and really connect with your way. And some people will hate you and find you terribly annoying.

Do you have to change who you are? Nope. They are simply not your people and you are not the teacher or person for them and it’s really ok.

We really all have different personality styles and ways. It doesn’t mean we can’t grow and evolve and fine tune.

But someone’s feedback is mostly about them. Yeah, we’ve all gotten the memo on this. But I think it’s important to say again.

If you don’t like something about someone, be on your merry way. Sending them a letter to let them know all the things you don’t like about them or the things they need to change, says so much about you.

It’s good to remember we are loved, we are hated and that’s all really ok and part of being in the world and putting our work out there.

P.S. I really wish everyone would read about the Enneagram.

I am an Enneagram 4 with a 3 wing. If you know anything about this personality system, this would make complete sense to you.

In general, we all connect with some types and are triggered by others. We all have room to grow. It would be a much better world if we could own our shit and not project it on others or ask people to change who they are. If you don’t like it, you can move on. (Read this book to learn more.)

Said with Love and Clarity,

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