People say money is the biggest reason couples get divorced. But I disagree. Now, of course: money is high-stakes, emotional territory. And money is certainly an area of life where we can experience a lot of stress and friction — especially in a relationship or marriage. Because as emotional and primal and confusing as money is for ONE person, when you add a whole other person to the mix — with their own money stories and patterns and childhood messages…
Your relationship to money is like a layer cake. (Now there’s a metaphor we can get behind, right?) There’s a big, thick, gooey emotional layer. (I’m imagining dark chocolate ganache, if you can’t tell.) Maybe there are actually several of these layers, throughout the cake. Then there’s a psychological-mental layer. That’s all of the beliefs and patterns you have about money, whether they came from you, your parents, your culture, or beyond. (Raspberry coulis, perhaps?) Money has relational and cultural…
It was 2:17pm on a Thursday afternoon in mid-April of this year. I was sitting on a big stage in New York with a panel of speakers at the Women In The World conference at the Lincoln Center. The topic of the panel discussion? Women and money. To my left was the award winning author Tayari Jones (american marriage), UBS Wealth Management’s global client strategy officer, Paula Polito, and the panel moderator from CNN, journalist and global affairs analyst, Bianna…