It was 2:17pm on a Thursday afternoon in mid-April of this year. I was sitting on a big stage in New York with a panel of speakers at the Women In The World conference at the Lincoln Center. The topic of the panel discussion? Women and money.
To my left was the award winning author Tayari Jones (american marriage), UBS Wealth Management’s global client strategy officer, Paula Polito, and the panel moderator from CNN, journalist and global affairs analyst, Bianna Golodryga.
To my right, a packed theater of 3,000 people were watching me. Thousands more were watching the livestream online. Moments before, Oprah and Stacey Abrams took their turns speaking on stage.
To say I was nervous would be putting it lightly. This was, hands down, the biggest audience I’ve ever spoken in front of.
But my hair looked great and I was wearing a new perfect outfit for the event, so I had that going for me.
I had already answered one question Bianna had asked me on stage and over the course of my 3 minute answer, I felt like I’d settled into my seat a bit. Inside, I was like “Okay…whew…I got this. This is a lot of people, but I can do this. Keep breathing.”
Tayari and Paula both answered questions, speaking for a handful of minutes each, and then quickly, without warning, Bianna brought the focus back to me with a question about money issues that come up in intimate relationships.
I started my answer and then somehow…I lost my train of thought. Right. There. On Stage. With thousands of people looking at me.
I had to think fast and I knew, somewhere deep in my bones, that I had only one choice: I had to be transparent and tell everyone watching that I was a bit nervous, and then I needed to do a very quick body check-in to ground myself.
So I paused and said to everyone that this was the biggest stage I’d ever been on and that I was really nervous.
Then I pointed a finger upward, tossed my hair to the side, and while Bianna took a few seconds to say that I was doing great and not to worry, I did the fastest body check in ever. And…it worked.
I grounded myself, grabbed the train of thought I had lost, and shimmy-danced onward with the rest of my answer to Bianna’s question.
So that moment, that quick little finger-pointing-up-with-a-hair-toss I did after I told the crowd that I was nervous, that was actually a mini body check-in.
If you’re new to me and all of this Art of Money stuff, you may not know what I mean by doing a “body check in” and why that has anything to do with anything about money.
Well, this little technique may not sound like much, but this simple little exercise has changed not only my relationship to money, but has done the same for the thousands of people that have put the Art of Money work into practice in their lives. (Turns out it also comes in handy if you lose your way while speaking on stage, as I found out at the Lincoln Center.)
If you’re reading this blog post, it probably means you’re interested in improving your money life in some way. If that’s true, you’re in luck.
After helping people improve their relationship with over the last 19 years, one thing has become super obvious: the easiest, fastest way to change your relationship with money is by becoming aware of the emotions and sensations in your body when the topic of money comes up, either in your mind or in conversation with someone (like your sweetie.)
If I could make a wish and have you walk away from this series of Money Mocha posts with just one thing, it would be this: that you learn to do a body check-in and remember to use it the next time you feel a money challenge come up for you.
Learning to do a body check-in is pretty simple. It’s like a quick mini meditation that grounds your awareness in your body and allows you to find clarity within the sometimes murky emotions around money.
But here’s the thing, and this is super important: the body check-in is something to be practiced before, during, and after any moment of working on your money life. This isn’t a “one and done” kind of a tool. It’s something to be practiced all the time during daily money interactions, money decisions, or in money conversations.
I’ve made a short guided audio recording for you to make it easy to learn. Just press play below and we can do a quick body check-in right now. And then next time a challenging emotion comes up around money? Remember this little exercise and give it a try. It has worked wonders for the thousands of folks that have learned it in my Art of Money methodology:
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The Body Check-In is just the beginning. Wanna go further?
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