You’re doing your money work. You’re shedding light on your money story, healing your money shame, and mustering the courage to really look at your numbers.
And then: Wham. Ouch. Brick Wall.
You’re still spending more than you’re earning.
It feels like it’s still not enough.
And, you worry it will never be enough or feel like enough.
What happens now?
Recently, a woman in my Art of Money community asked me exactly this – she had just started an exciting new job and was feeling incredibly deflated to look at her numbers and see that she was still spending more than her new salary.
I know she’s not alone in her inquiry:
How can we lovingly and effectively work with the experience of not enoughness?
Here are some suggestions for practicing enoughness.
I. Get Curious about it… in your Body.
The first place to start is almost always in the body. Body Check In.
What does this “Not Enough” feel like? Where can you feel it? Can you locate the experience of not enough in your body? Ask it what it wants and what it needs. Are there words of wisdom from this place? Can you give it some space to been seen, heard and understood? Sometimes a little body-check-in is all we need.
After you get curious about ‘not enoughness’ in your body…
Get curious about ‘ENOUGHNESS’ in your body.
See if you can feel the difference.
There is a guided body check in at the bottom of this post, in case you missed it.
II. Fill yourself up with Choice.
It may feel like you are out of options, as if there are no choices. It may seem as if this is a black and white issue of Not. Enough. Money. I invite you to pause here, and do a deeper investigation.
I worked with a woman who was making $200,000 as a single woman in San Francisco. But she found herself spending more than she was earning, and beginning to go into debt.
Was this because there was not enough money? Or was this because she needed to add in a big dose of consciousness and choice? The point here is that it may not be about the numbers.