Financial Therapy

You. Me. Loving Transformation. 

If you’re reading this page, chances are you have an inkling of how wide and deep money’s impact is.  Like a golden thread, money is woven through the entire tapestry of your life: business, romance, parenting, creative fulfillment, spirituality, self-worth, and much more.  

Your relationship with money can vitalize and nurture every area of your life.  Truly.  

Yet for many of us, money is a source of anxiety, stress, fear, confusion, anger, doubt, and disconnection.  Instead of strengthening the other areas of our lives, it saps them of their energy and love.

There is a better way.  

Take my hand.  You’re not alone.

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You:  A motivated deep diver.  A thoughtful transformation seeker.  An individual, couple, or creative entrepreneur ready to create a new, more loving and honest relationship with money.

Me:  A gentle, experienced guide.  A playful, compassionate companion.  A seasoned entrepreneur, financial therapist, and mentor coach excited to meet you right where you are.

We:  Will create a safe space for your tenderest explorations.  A can-do plan for practical baby steps.  A grand vision aligned with your values.  Knowing, loving support right where you need it.

I’ll bring the very best of my experience — and myself:  reliable tools, discerning guidance, and loving support.  From my heart to yours.

It’s a unique journey, custom-tailored just for you.  Soft and sweet.  Practical and soulful. Focused and fierce.  Connected and clear.

Join me for the adventure that changes everything.

Kristen WheelerI think what Bari does more than anything is un-shames us around money. It’s the combination of nuts and bolts financial knowledge and practices, with compassionate attention — not only on the numbers, but past baggage, emotions, and heart. It was the combination of rigor — and frankly love — that made this work land with me like nothing before.  ~ Kristin Wheeler

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What brings you here?

In over a decade of financial therapy, I’ve noticed 7 key money areas that arise again and again for people, and bring them to this work.

Which of these areas could use a little love?

  1. Clarity ~ Does the thought of actually looking at your numbers (what you’re earning, what you’re spending) give you the heebie jeebies?  You’re not alone!  Getting clarity opens so many doors!

  2. Intimacy ~ How’s your relationship to money?  Is it a monster hiding under your bed?  What if you made friends with it?  We’ll invite it to tea and chocolate, and you’ll feel what it’s like when money’s on your side.

  3. Financial Literacy ~ Money has a language.  And so few of us speak it!  Get fluent with your finances and set up systems that serve you.  (It’s not scary, I promise!)

  4. Ease ~ You really can unravel the anxiety, stress, and hurt around money and gain peace of mind.  You’ll learn how to create a life where you felt clear and confident around money, and trust life’s seasons and cycles.  Ahhhhh.

  5. Success ~ What does a mature, successful relationship with money look like for you?  Is it increasing revenue?  Saving more?  Gifting more?  Having financial heart-to-hearts with your honey?

  6. Value ~ Money is intimately tied to our sense of worth, confidence, and purpose. We’ll honor who you are, who you’re not, and how astonishingly valuable you are!

  7. Hope ~ We all have big feelings about money, and sometimes feel shame and despair.  It’s time to get un-stuck.  To honor your feelings and know that things can (and will!) get better.  

I have loved the time I’ve spent working with Bari. She is gentle, trustworthy, and knows her stuff—a great ally to have on the path towards financial awareness and empowerment. Not only did I learn valuable methods for saving and using money, I also gained confidence and a stronger sense of self worth. Through working with Bari, I opened up to receiving the fullness of the gifts I have in my life: my income, my work situation, and all the beautiful choices in front of me.  ~ Stephanie Thomas

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Financial Therapy: The heart of my process.

Whether your money goals are relatively clear, or you have no clue where to begin, together we’ll explore and heal your relationship with money on the practical, psychological, and spiritual levels.

My private sessions are customized combo platters of deep money work and practical next steps.  Emotional healing and number-crunching.  Relationship exploration and spiritual transformation.  With tender insights, energizing practices, soaring visions, and celebratory shoulder-shimmies.  

Your whole self is welcome here.

For Solo Journeyers: No matter where you are in life’s journey, healing your relationship with money can unlock a treasure trove of oomph and joy and ease.

For Couples:  What if you and your honey replaced stressful money emergencies with yummy “money dates”?  What if money brought you closer together?  It’s so possible!

For Creative Entrepreneurs:  Running your own business is a sure-fire way to uncover everything that needs healing in your money relationship.  Let’s talk about value, meaning, self-worth, and personal evolution.  Let’s get nitty-gritty about how to run your biz, be the entrepreneur you most want to be, or create success as a mommypreneur.  Mentor Coaching is a massively helpful investment for your business!

I put all of my training and experience to work for you, creating a gentle, healing space for deep money work and practical next steps.  I have been cultivating, evolving and fine tuning this method for well over a decade. I’m dedicated to creating a container of presence and acceptance.

The result?  Healing, forgiveness, and hope.  Soul-soothing.  Heart-expanding. Artful un-shaming.  A mature relationship with money so you can create your life of purpose, value, and joy — whatever that looks like to you!

 

My work integrates 3 phases: 

Money Healing, Money Practices, and Money Maps.

 

Money Healing:

So often, we neglect the emotional foundations of our financial lives.  Not here! We’ll take the time to delve deep into the emotional, historical, and psychological territory of your money relationship, honoring all the nuance and complexity there.  And we’ll meet it all with massive doses of listening, forgiveness, and love.  

Money Practices:

Think of this as the yang to Money Healing’s yin.  The earthy practicality that brings to life your deep transformative work.  Here, we play with numbers, techniques, systems, and nuts-and-bolts practical steps.   We de-mystify finances, create (or refine) regular money practices, and transform the often dry, dreaded world of “bookkeeping” into something playful, ease-ful, and clear.  (And YES, we bring chocolate.  We light candles.  We discover what you need to make money practices meaningful and beautiful.)

Money Maps:

Here, take all the money healing and practices and apply them to the big vision of your life.  We zoom out to get a clear picture of your money relationship: past, present, and future.  Where are you in your life journey?  And how does this relate to your money story?  You’ll connect with your big goals, clarify financial priorities, and create strategies to serve where you’re headed.  We’ll replace ho-hum budgets with a vitalizing “Map of Intention.”  We’ll ask big questions, vision, review, adjust, experiment, and vision some more.

Plus: my favorite pro’s, at your service.  I’ll mentor you in each of these areas, with the very best of my expertise and love.  If you’d like additional, specialized support, I’m more than happy to connect you with your money support team (Bookkeeping Trainers, Accountants, Financial Coaches and Financial Planners).  You’ll get my trusty referrals — suggestions on what questions to ask and tips + tools to help you find the best fit for you. 

 

Ready? Choose from two levels of support: 

Option #1.
Laser Money Love Session

Book a single 75 minute session that could truly change your life. We’ll dive straight in to the area of your money story asking (or screaming!) for love, healing, and support.

In advance of the session, you’ll send me anything you’d like me to know about you, so we can jump right in when we meet. And, following the session, I’ll send personalized email support, love and resources. 

This option is perfect for you if: 

  • There’s a particular aspect of your relationship with money that’s calling for attention.  You’re clear on where you’d like help (perhaps you have a specific set of questions), and you simply need a small amount of focused, deeply supportive time to dig in.
  • You know you want to work with me, this work speaks to something deep and exciting within you — but you’re a little lost about where to start.  You’d like to experience this work first-hand, starting with a small taste. 
  • You are in my Art of Money program, or you’re a former student, already immersed in my work — and you just need a little extra boost of my undivided love and attention to support your path. 

Your Investment: $250 

 
 
 

 

As soon as you sign up, you’ll receive a link to schedule your session and a few helpful questions to prepare us both for our time together.  

Sas-PetherickI loved our session Bari! Just booking our time together created an opportunity for Ash and I to take our conversations about money to a deeper place. I have resisted putting any energy into understanding and creating space for money for so long, but the energy it creates and the opportunities it creates for intimacy in our marriage blows my mind! I am so grateful for the work you do and how beautifully you and Forest show the way. ~ Sas Petherik

Option #2:
6-Month Money Journey

If you’re ready for the deepest transformation and most profound impact, this option is for you!

You’ll receive my continuous, ongoing support and love, while we meet and all the time.  I’ll hold a vision for your healing, progress, and new possibilities for the entire 6 months.

(Yes: I think about you on my hikes!)

Due to the extensive support that makes this option so effective, I can only offer (8) spots at any time.

This focused, personalized attention is simply the fastest and most skillful way to create deep, sustainable change in your money relationship.

What’s Included:

  • Private sessions for six months. We’ll meet over the phone for a total of 90 minutes each month. This work is fluid, and you are unique: so I’ve created a structure to align with the flow of your life and needs.  Use your 90-minutes in the way that works best for you!  (You choose any 30-minute increment: 1 long session, 3 short sessions, or somewhere in between.) We will discuss the best pace for you.

  • An unconditionally loving space.  The hallmark of my approach is the art of un-shaming.  I’m all about: honoring, healing, and bringing understanding and clarity to your relationship with money.  I’m gentle and loving — and invite you to treat yourself that way, too!  In our sessions, we work on anything and everything that comes up for you, for maximum money healing.  Bring your questions about your personal, couple, and entrepreneurial finances + lifestyle.  All of you is welcome in this safe, tender space.  

  • A tried and true framework.  My work has 3 key phases:  Money Healing, Money Practices, and Money Maps.  We’ll start wherever best serves you, and jump around as our journey unfolds.  This is a personalized, co-creative experience.  It begins right where  you are, and follows the thread of your desires and needs.  Where it ends is entirely up to you.

  • Email support between sessions. I’m here for you!  Send me your updates, questions, money journal entries, requests for support, or gleeful triumphs.

  • My entire library for Self-Study. In addition to our private work together, you will receive my best resources — workbooks, exercises, teachings, interviews, and more. These materials will provide a sturdy foundation for our work together, along with ongoing support, whenever you need it.

Deep healing.  Embodied action.  Grand visions + effective baby steps.  With plenty of savvy tools and soothing tea, belly laughs and happy chills, loving guidance and virtual high-fives.  

Expect to …

  • Tell your story.  Unravel patterns that no longer serve you.  Bring awareness, forgiveness, and conscious choice to your financial world.

  • Discover all the places money shows up in your daily life and relationships.  (Hint: it’s not just when you pull out your wallet!)

  • Get specific suggestions and instructions for money practices and tools.  You can use any financial tracking system you feel drawn to, or already are using. (Mint, Quicken, Quickbooks, etc.) If you’re not sure, I’ll help you choose!

  • Breathe. You’ll learn skills + practices to create an atmosphere of ease, compassion, and forgiveness with yourself.

  • Create a personalized, creative money practice you’ll fall in love with — including daily, weekly, monthly, and annual check-ins.

  • Get on the same team with your honey: bring open communication and compassion to your money conversations.

  • Replace a booooring budget with a vibrant Map of Intention based on your values, lifestyle, and phase of life.

  • Delve into the rich terrain of finances for the creative entrepreneur.  (Holy moly, there’s a lot here!)  

  • Decide: do you need other members of your money support team?  If so, you’ll get my tips on how to find + hire the best match.

  • Have fun! Our private sessions are serious business, but they’re also infused with playful ease.  This sense of relaxed well-being permeates every relationship in your life: from family to friends to your most beloved.

Your Investment: 

One time payment of $2500

 

 

 

As soon as you sign up, you’ll receive access to my library of self-study materials, and a link to schedule our first session.  

So:  Is now your time?

The transformation this work offers is so profound, so wide-reaching, so relevant, and so relevant, I don’t want you to wait another moment to enjoy it.  Truly: it’s that good.

And …

1.  This work is not for everyone.  It’s for truly motivated people who are ready to show up, trust the process, and commit to a loving, playful exploration.    

2.  Timing matters.  While it’s true that I only offer 8 spots at a time for this intimate work, that whole salesy, scarcity-driven, buy-now-or-you’ll-miss-out schtick makes my heart hurt and gives me the creeps.  I stand for conscious, loving decisions that feel true-to-you.  You’re the authority here!  Ask yourself: am I ready for this?  Honor the answer you receive.

3.  What about this whole spending-money-on-my-relationship-with-money thing?  I know:  that can seem a little odd.  Actually, how do we make any decision around spending?  (I wrote an entire article about this, here.)  Some guiding questions I recommend here:  

  • Am I prepared to gently, lovingly hold myself accountable for receiving the value of this investment?

  • Do I feel empowered, trusting, and loving towards myself in making this investment?

  • Am I prepared to invest not only my money, but my mind, my heart, my time, and my consciousness, as well?

Yes?  Then everything is aligned for you to receive a powerful return on your investment.  And I can’t wait to get started!

What Clients Are Sharing:

mariabaileyI said in our first meeting, “I want you to give me a transmission – The Knowing – about money.” But little did I know that what I was going to receive from you was much more. Yes, my relationship with money improved, I feel more comfortable making decisions and speaking to others about it. I’ve learned to set clear boundaries and within that I’ve learned to relax more and be more generous. But the true transformation and transmission I received was the permission, example and inspiration to BE A WOMAN IN A MAN DRIVEN WORLD. To make this seemingly contrived money world into a creative exploration. I learned that I can have MY WAYS… creative, playful, meaningful and full of beauty while also being responsible, effective and successful. That I did not have to “lose” myself to be successful or effective in the world. I thought I would learn bookkeeping techniques, checks and balances, or set up how to delegate these responsibilities – which are part of the program and important! – But what I came away with was ACCEPTANCE, GRATITUDE AND APPRECIATION for who I am and my own unique dialogue and relationship with money. I learned to trust my INTUITION even when my “mind” says “I should! I should! I should!”… To trust that I am ok just where I am… that I’m not confused, broken or a mess… I AM A WOMAN! for god’s sake… passionate, unpredictable, playful and deeply connected to my experience, which is ALWAYS CHANGING! I am not perfect and that’s ok. I am good enough. Bari, I believe that working with you was my initiation into the MODERN FEMININE – seeing through the “story” of the world, whole-fully participating and in the wake create an enlivening experience for all involved! I feel sisterhood, allegiance and community when I think of you… and so it is. ~ Maria Bailey

rebecca lewisBari is a wise, loving and incredibly real. Working with her has been a grounding point not only in my relationship to money but also in my life. She naturally creates a safe haven and gently holds the space for you to navigate the wilderness of money and all dances with it. She wears many hats… a guide, a teacher, mentor, friend, role model and she moves through these hats with the perfect amount of transparency, professionalism and grace. Her worked moved me from a place of fear, shame and isolation around money to a place of having much more confidence, clarity, ease and enjoyment! I never knew that looking at my numbers could actually be exciting. If you know the time has come for you enter “money adulthood” then Bari is your gal. Her work leads your through a process that is both deep and transformational but also fun, educational and action oriented. Working with her was one of the best decisions I made in 2012. ~ Rebecca Lewis

Beautiful Bari, thank you for our last session today in the six month financial coaching program that I did with you. It continually amazes me how well you navigate the practical, emotional, physical, mental, and other aspects of the work. In one moment, you hang with me through the juicy visions of my shamanic mind revealing next steps and clear visions in epic symbolism, dreams, and images and then next you’re walking me through the practical and technical subtleties of refining my growing-ever-more-efficient bookkeeping system – now that’s adaptability! I am so looking forward to diving in to greater depth and subtlety and abundance as I embark on your community course and movement, the Art of Money starting this Friday! Heck, I was adding in my head how much I estimate I saved in practical expenses + time saved + abundant income that all directly resulted from your program and I definitely saved and generated more than I spent on it. I estimated our session today probably saved me at least $500 in expenses. (p.s. that’s my enginerd mind that thinks that way being very happy with my investment. LOL!) ~ Angela Grace

I’ve upgraded my mantras and sing a new financial song. Now I can do quickbooks on a mac, I know the difference between financial planner and financial coach, and I can hire a bookkeeper when the time comes with confidence. And I stepped up because I no longer stumble in my money shoes. Thank you Bari. My healing around that which scares (terrifies) me has blown right off the charts. And she speaks in these low soothing tones that could talk a (financial) jumper off a ledge, uh, like me. My life will never be the same, and yours won’t be either if you are brave and love yourself enough to change that which does not serve, even if its its mad scary. Bari will help you. Trust me.  ~Rowan Twosisters, Founder of Urban Curandera.

 

My husband and I decided to work with Bari because we were stuck in the same, old (ugly) patterns around money. We knew we needed to change, yet the “money talks,” the budgeting, the planning…was keeping us on a merry-go-round of struggle, anger and frustration. I knew it was our “psychology” and our emotions around money that really needed to shift, while my husband was more focused on the nuts-and-bolts of our finances; and Bari was a perfect fit for both of our needs. In her kind, soothing and ever-so-compassionate way, she gently helped us see the old patterns and begin to shift them. She reminded us that although we each “held” different stances around money in the relationship, we actually had similar values and wishes for our family. Bari also gave us the courage to “look” at our money in a more nuts-and-bolts, concrete way. We set up a Mint account, have “money dates” weekly, and budget and plan in a way that doesn’t feel “restrictive” and depriving, but exciting and hopeful. Our conversations hold connection instead of disconnection and anger; and our money relationship is no longer a source of conflict for us. It is a HUGE relief. In addition – and this feels almost magical – my income has increased. If you struggle with money (and who doesn’t?) and you want a loving, soothing guide to support you with wisdom, intuition and deep psychological awareness, than you will be in great hands with Bari.  ~Karen and David Schachter, Founder of Dishing With Your Daughter

As I took steps along the journey to transition from my longstanding psychotherapy practice to working with financial therapy clients, I knew that Bari Tessler, a pioneer in the financial therapy field, would be an instrumental mentor in shaping my mastery of this specialization. Bari was generous in providing her expertise, support, and guidance in working with clients around money issues. She helped me delve deeper into my own money story, which left me with greater money consciousness and an enhanced ability to guide others on their journey. I was also able to get very clear on delineating–for myself–the differences between traditional psychotherapy and financial therapy, allowing me serve my money coaching and financial therapy clients in the highest way. Bari is gifted in creating a warm, safe, and nurturing learning environment from which she shares her expertise and talents in helping people heal their money stories. She is a special lady and experienced financial therapist who will guide you in discovering your unique path with this work. It’s my sincerest honor and pleasure to be part of the Conscious Bookkeeping lineage!” ~Lora Sasiela, Founder of Financially Smitten

Financial Therapy Testimonial After more than 20 years of teaching yoga full time and raising a son, I took a year-long sabbatical, travelled to India, and went to the desert to study Ayurveda. I returned to my home a year later, happy, full of wisdom to share, in debt, and a year behind in my bookkeeping. After the initial elation wore off from my year away, I was a little freaked out. I reached out to Bari, with whom I had learned about money healing and bookkeeping in years prior. It seemed crazy to invest a big chunk of money on money counseling when I was in debt from my year off, but I spoke with Bari, went with my gut, and signed up for private financial therapy. I went from freaked out to calm and on top of my situation, and by the end of our 6 months together felt so grateful for the year’s sabbatical, at peace with my school debt, and back into my bookkeeping practice. Bari was so calm and unruffled by my anxiety, and met me so closely moment by moment. No real structure, but Bari’s deep understanding of the territory came out in little nudges here and there to help me see more. I came to understand more about what motivated me to drop bookkeeping for a year, and am all the wiser for it. The value I received was way beyond the monetary investment. I would recommend Bari’s private work to anyone who is feeling they need some real support and guidance…she’ll support you in reclaiming that guidance that lies within yourself.   ~ Shannon McCall, Yoga Teacher and Ayurvedic Practitioner

Begin now. Financial transformation awaits!

Option #1: Laser Money Love Session
Your Investment: $250

 

 

 

Option #2: Six-Month Money Journey
Your Investment: $2500

 

 

 

Inquiries? Inklings? Intrigued?

Please feel free to contact us with any questions or concerns as you feel into whether this program is your best next step.