Golden Nugget #7
It’s a funny thing: I make my living helping people heal their relationship with money.
And today, I’d like to talk openly about the elephant in the room here:
How in the world do you decide whether to spend money on your relationship with money?
Isn’t that confusing??
And in a bigger sense: how do we make good money decisions, in general?
How do we know when to invest, risk, say “Yes!” … and when to tighten our belts and say “Nope” or “Not now”? How can we make money decisions that are financially and emotionally sound — all while serving our deepest needs and wants?
Here’s the thing: when you have a process for making a money decision (and it can be simple!) you’ll feel clear and empowered with each one you make. The big ones and the little ones. And whether your answer is “yes” or “nope.”
I’ve written about this potent topic before, and I’m excited to guide you through my step-by-step decision process — revamped and updated to help you make your best decision about joining The Art of Money. (Of course, apply this freely to any money decision you’re grappling with!)
If you want to join the Art of Money 2014, but you’re on the fence — worried you can’t afford it, wondering how to decide if you should spend money on it, or feeling you don’t deserve this investment in your self-care — here’s what I have to say to you, dear friend:
First of all: how astute and thoughtful of you! I applaud you for weighing your money decision carefully. I want to help you make an empowered, confident, and honest decision — today and always.
When facing any money decision, I recommend considering five main factors:
- The Numbers
- The Timing
- The Value
- The Cost
- The Intention
1. The Numbers.
Do you know if you have enough money right now to make this purchase?
If you have no idea, and are afraid to even look at your numbers, consider this: The Art of Money will gently teach you how to do just that.
(And if you’re not sure where your numbers stand right now, perhaps you could use more clarity in general, for all those other purchases, too.)
Often our unconsciousness around the numbers themselves is the first roadblock to making a money decision — and it can be paralyzing!
You don’t know how much you can afford. For lots of good reasons, you’re terrified to look at your numbers. You don’t really know how much you have, owe, or spend. Believe it or not, I see this pattern with people across the spectrum of income and socio-economic status.
It’s an interesting paradox: of course the numbers matter, but when it comes to our experience of “enoughness,” they are often irrelevant.
Some people might be just meeting their basic needs, and bringing in very little money – but still do whatever it takes to invest in something important to them (more on the “important” part later . . .)
Others may have more than enough money to satisfy all of their needs and desires (through a nice income, inheritance, or something else) but still feel enormous pressure when making their financial decisions.
What’s your relationship with your numbers?
Here’s another suggestion for engaging your numbers in this decision: brainstorm ways to create an extra $88/month in your life (cut out a few lattes here, skip a movie there, or make a little extra cash on the side — it might be easier than you think).
2. The timing.
Is now the right time for you to make this investment in yourself? Is your relationship to money calling (or screaming) to you? Have you been longing for this kind of support?
- Have you been consciously (or secretly) looking for this type of support for months? Years?
- Do you wish you’d had this support a long time ago?
- Are you SO ready for this work?
- Do you know you don’t want to wait for another year until the next time it’s offered, in 2015?
- Did your desire for this kind of guidance come out of the blue?
- Are you facing a money initiation? Big transitions like divorce, death, birth, or career changes can often catapult us into this work.
- Have you felt the quiet, subtle influence of your money relationship hurting your self esteem or relationships? Has it been whispering to you — and is now the time to answer that call?
How does this offering intersect with the unique timing of your money story?
3. The Value.
(This is the big one!)
Is this program valuable to you? If so, how valuable? Are you willing to spend your money to reflect this value?
Sometimes it’s difficult to quantify the value of something — and this makes it even harder to decide if it’s worth the pricetag. My work often falls into this category, as it’s subjective, subtle, and can be difficult to wrap your mind around from the outside.
Sometimes we have to dig deep to determine the value of our potential investment.
The healings that occur in my work are massive — but they’re often subtle at first. Sometimes our external world changes drastically and quickly. But sometimes the first chunks of work happen deep within, blazing a trail for external change.
To help you clarify the value you place on this kind of support, here are some of the benefits (tangible & intangible) you can expect from The Art of Money:
- Peace of mind, clarity, and compassion in your money relationship
- Deeper understanding and acceptance of the phases (the peaks and valleys) in your money and in your life
- Productive, loving + fun money conversations with your partner (yes, we know you will be moving mountains when you do this)
- A transformed relationship with money, with ripple effects into all areas of your life
- Money un-shaming, healing & forgiveness . . . in droves
- An implemented, clear, and manageable tracking system that fits your life
- Custom-fit daily, weekly, monthly, and annual Money self-care practices
- A new-found willingness to look at your numbers, learn from them, and make important changes
- Deeper awareness + savvier skills with your Saving, Earning, Spending and Giving habits
- Learning to create + live a value-infused budget (aka: map of intention)
- An increased sense of self-worth, empowerment, and confidence (with money and beyond)
- A more mature & adult relationship with money (you define this!)
- A foundational, essential money education that serves you in life, biz and all of your relationships
- Clarity on how to create your money support team: your bookkeeper, accountant and financial planner
- Additional tools to add more meaning + fun + creativity with your relationship to money
- Connection with a whole tribe of kindred Money Explorers (the tenderness and encouragement and love in this group? Amazing.)
- Excitement and adventure as you hear our eclectic, expert guest teachers, who illuminate so many different aspects of this complex thing: money.
Once you hash out the value of any money decision, here’s the next step:
Take a deep breath. Notice how your body feels, right now. And answer this question for yourself:
What are these things worth to you, right now? How would your life be different or better if you had all of these things?
Once you are clear on how valuable something is (or isn’t) to you, the choice is almost made for you. Follow your values.
4. The Cost.
Let’s take a look at the flip side of value: cost, consequence, and loss.
You’ve explored what you might hope and expect to gain from this experience, but have you examined what it might cost you to not do it?
How much is it costing you to not make this investment in yourself? How is not doing this work hurting you, your career, or your relationships?
What’s the cost of staying right where you are in your relationship to money? Here are some common, painful consequences I’ve seen:
- Conflict with your honey about money (whether unspoken or very vocal)
- Worry about money problems when you open the mailbox (bills!), answer the phone (collectors!), or go about your day (background worry!)
- Confusion about what your numbers actually look like, because you’re too afraid to look
- Shame, guilt, fear, or anxiety about where you stand financially
- Money wasted on bank charges, late fees, unpaid taxes, and more — because your financial house isn’t in order
- Avoiding important relationships because of money stress or fear
- Neglecting your most cherished dreams and values — because you can’t afford to invest in them (or aren’t sure if you can)
- Career stress, confusion, or paralysis because you’re not sure how to move forward financially
- Feeling disempowered, confused, overwhelmed, and unworthy — in your money relationship and beyond.
What would it be worth to you to banish these things from your life, for good? What toll are these things taking on you now, and what’s the cost if you never change them?
5. The Intention.
Is this a self-loving decision? Are you ready to receive the value of this investment?
A lot of people beat themselves up about this. We spend our money on something we think we’ll use and love … and then let it rot. Ouch.
We buy a fancy grill because we envision quality time with our family & friends, amazing food, and more time outdoors. And then . . . we never use it.
Or, we sign up for a personal growth program, and miss the calls and ignore the homework. Eeek.
The key here is the spirit with which you invest, and your readiness to receive.
If you’re prepared to gently, lovingly hold yourself accountable for receiving the value of this investment …
If you feel empowered, trusting, and loving towards yourself in making this investment …
If you’re prepared to invest not only your money, but your mind, your heart, your time, and your consciousness, as well …
Then everything is aligned for you to receive a powerful return on your investment.
So: Take a deep breath. Check in with yourself. Look at your numbers. Consider the timing. Weigh the value. Reflect on your intentions. Is this your time?
Only you can know!
I am here to hold your hand, with an incredible community and amazing guest teachers as well. There is a conscious money movement happening. Join us!